You know what you intend to do. What you end up doing instead is the problem. The scrolling. The comfort routines. The strange ability to suddenly become interested in something else the moment the important thing appears.
These behaviours usually make more sense than they first seem to. Most people treat this like a discipline problem. Which often leads to more self criticism, more pressure, and eventually more avoidance.
But behaviour is usually responding to something.
Sometimes the task feels too uncertain. Sometimes your energy is lower than you realise. Sometimes the behaviour is creating relief from something you have not fully noticed yet. Which means trying to force the behaviour to stop without understanding what it is doing for you tends not to work for very long.
A more useful question is usually: What is this behaviour helping me avoid, soften, or escape from right now? The answer is often more specific than people expect. And once you can see that more clearly, the behaviour itself tends to make a bit more sense too.
Below are some articles that may help you understand this kind of stuck a little better.
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